Things I've learnt since graduating, and what I wish I knew before!

For those of you who don’t already know, my name is Rebecca and I am the creator of One Oh One - a project I started when I finished my postgraduate research into the transition out of university. I graduated with my BSc in 2017 and have been in the working world since then (balancing full-time work with my postgraduate research degree was not fun!). 

I’ve learnt a lot during my time in the ‘real’ world. It’s been a joy and an absolute nightmare at the same time. I’ve developed my skills, I’ve grown in confidence, and I’d like to share with you some of the things I’ve come to learn. In life, we always wish we could act on our hindsight and go back to tweak things - perhaps things we wouldn’t have said, or would have said… opportunities we would have taken. If I had the chance to go back and visit 21-year-old me, here’s what I would tell her (and I’m hoping this advice might be helpful for you, too!)

1) You won’t suddenly know what you want to do once you graduate, and that’s okay. Or you might have an idea and then some time later you’ll want to do something else. And whilst that uncertainty may be difficult for you to sit with, realise that it’s okay. Plans change, and you change, too. This is especially important if you realise you don’t want to go into a degree-related career. 

2) And on that note, you don’t need to have a five year plan - or, do have a plan but realise it may not follow through, because things can blindside you and throw it up in the air (ahem, covid-19). 

3) So for that reason, stay flexible. Don’t get caught up if you’re not in the job you want to be in right now. Keep an open mind, and keep putting feelers out. Don’t just wait for places to post vacancies, if you’re interested in working somewhere, reach out and try your luck, and if nothing comes from it, at least you have the experience of networking. 

4) Try not to take rejection personally. It’s a really tough world out here, and we’re no longer competing with just our peers, but with so many people with wide experiences and diverse backgrounds. If you are rejected from a job, can you ask for feedback?

5) And you have to take it easy on yourself. Please do try as hard as you can to not  compare yourself to others and your own expectations of where you thought you’d be/would like to have been. 

6) However, we’re all human, and you will compare yourself to others, and there will be jealousy, or anxiety that you’re not ‘there’ but you have to trust that you are doing just fine at your own pace.

7) It can be difficult to maintain friendships in the working world, but it’s not impossible. Try and plan things with your friends, even if it’s a 30 minute coffee meet up (or Zoom call). 

8) One day you’ll love your job, the next you’ll hate it. Never make brash decisions.

 

9) People are going to love asking you what you plan to do next, don’t be freaked out by that question, it’s okay to say you don’t know. 

10) And finally, you’re never on your own! I can guarantee you, most of your graduate friends have felt completely and totally out of their depths at times… even the ones who look like they’ve got it under control. 

Guest post: Surviving post-graduation blues

 

Eleanor graduated last year from Sheffield Hallam University with a degree in English Language. As we can expect, graduating in the middle of a global pandemic can make the already daunting move out of education seem even more overwhelming. In this guest post, Eleanor talks about her experience dealing with those 'post-graduation blues' that so many of us face and talks us through what she has learnt so far, in the hopes that it can make graduates feeling the same way, less alone.

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Finishing university can be completely overwhelming, let alone during a global pandemic. My second semester of third year was probably the most stressful time of my life. I had constant deadlines to meet, an 8,000-word dissertation to write whilst trying to cope with the pressure of achieving my best mark. How would I be defined if I didn’t get the grade I wanted? These thoughts never left my mind. 

In March 2020, COVID-19 began to impact many people’s lives and it suddenly hit me that I had to return home for lockdown and leave university, three months earlier than I had planned. I didn’t get the chance to say bye to all my friends or thank my lecturers for all their help with my work over the past three years. It was extremely hard finishing my dissertation and all my other assignments at home, there were so many distractions, and I missed being at the library where I felt like I could be the most productive. 

The day finally came when I submitted my last assignment. Although I was completely over the moon that I had finished all my work, it still felt bittersweet. I wasn’t 100% happy because I had no idea what my next steps were, I didn’t know what career I wanted to go in and I genuinely didn’t know what my purpose was after the best years of my life were over so quickly. Whilst feeling like this, all I wanted to do was go back to Sheffield and celebrate finishing university by going on a night out with all my friends. Obviously, this couldn’t happen, and it was the worst feeling ever because I felt like my achievements and success didn’t mean anything. 

I really struggled with moving back home. The independence I gained when living on my own at university and becoming an adult felt like it completely disappeared, and it was almost as if my life had gone completely backwards. I was constantly comparing myself to other people on social media who had secured a graduate job and I felt like a failure because I still didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. I had to deal with the constant overpowering questions ‘So, what do you want to do now?’ or ‘When are you going to get a proper job?’. My mental health really took a turn for the worst because I couldn’t stop thinking about the future and all the uncertainty that came with it. 

It took me several months when I finally realised, why am I actually stressing out so much? Just because the job I have now isn’t what I want to be doing forever and I haven’t exactly figured out what my next steps are, this IS okay. I’m only 22 years old and I definitely don’t need to have my whole life planned out. Not to forget the fact that we’re currently living in unprecedented times and finding a job is more difficult than ever, which is why putting unnecessary amounts of pressure on myself isn’t healthy. 

I wanted to write this blog to make sure that other graduates who may also be feeling like this know that they’re not alone. There is so much support at university when you’re a student, but as soon as you leave you can feel completely isolated and not part of a community anymore. Even though COVID-19 has made this difficult, it’s important to stay in touch with your friends from university who may be struggling with this transition too, and reach out for support if you need it. I’ve tried to overcome my post-university blues by keeping busy, taking regular breaks from social media so I’m not constantly looking at what other people are doing, and making sure that I’m patient. If like me, you’re not set on what you want to do, try and see this as something positive! You have time to travel, volunteer, or even work abroad for some time if you want to experience a different culture and gain some experience. Remember that you’re still young and it’s better to give yourself time to think about what you want to do, rather than committing to a job that you might hate and end up regretting rushing into it.